INTERVIEW: GIRL MAGAZINE
We spoke with Fidele from GIRL Magazine about her take on the female form, the importance of self love and her favourite smells…
Describe GIRL Magazine…
Strong yet at the same time sensitive , that’s how I see myself. I can cry in a minute but after 5 years of cancer , I’m stronger than I thought. Each year that passes , each pain makes me more empowered , attached to my dreams, to myself , to life and the dreams that give me hope.
Empowering : I wanted to create a platform to empower others the way I empowered myself through the hardest times of my life. I was able to find hope within the importance of God , my family and dreams.
Caring and loving: there isn’t much love in this world and a light can go a long way.
What is the inspiration behind the publication?
Though it is odd to describe GIRL Magazine as a person, I am one with the magazine. My heart is intertwined with it. I was going through my relapse from cancer, when what started as a photography project turned to an online magazine , a platform to spread self love for every type of girl . I have learned through my experience that nothing strengthens the mind and willpower like forgiving yourself.
Nothing builds your immune system from the hate others inflict on you, the way looking at your naked reflection does. The hate slowly turns to forgiveness, acceptance, admiration.
What message do you hope people take when looking through your images?
As a rule, I never post anything if I don’t feel an attachment to the photo or the words in the description. If there’s a message I want to share, either of my own or lyrics from a song that transmits a message, it’s important to connect to people through your raw emotions rather than just post for the sake of appearing on their instagram feed and that is how I was able to build something different online as there are many online magazines and zines that spread feminism but I wanted GIRL Magazine to focus on the innocent girl within – the one who jumps up and down at the thought of ice cream, who dances in her underwear, who doesn’t get sad for too long. In a way I wanted to immortalise the idea of our inner selves staying young and the words “PURE” and “different” are often the words I receive from strangers to describe the magazine.
If you could pick one thing to improve about your industry what would it be?
They talk about self love but yet not how to attain it in the simplest of ways:
Don’t give up on your dreams.
Look at your naked reflection.
Take 30 minutes to be mad , it’s enough time to think things through yet not long enough to waste a whole day ( it’s a rule of mine and it works , it gives my mind 30 minutes to find inspiration and a solution rather than focus on the problem).
It’s a whole new mechanism.
Turn the music up, take a shower, dance naked or in your underwear (it is one of the most cleansing forms of self love rituals you can perform).
What advice would you give yourself 5 years ago?
The same thing a friend told me “YOU ARE STRONGER THAN YOU THINK” and that was even before I knew I had cancer. They were the perfect words for the unknown that was coming my way.
If you could implement a big change is society what would it be and why?
Dismembering jealousy from people’s minds and cores. It is the cause of self hate, wars, hunger and every other rat race.
What women have inspired your career?
I spent my young years coming back from school, doing my homework and watching Oprah with my grandmother at 8pm… you can almost say , these two women raised me along with my mother. There are countless reasons, stories and people that have moved me to tears and helped open my eyes to a world I didn’t know, it made me eager to grow into someone who makes a difference rather than just building a successful career.
Are you a witch or a bitch?
I’m strong in my opinions and goals but I take other people’s advice better now. I don’t get too sensitive about it. I guess it makes me a bit of a white witch and a little bit of a bitch because I’ve learned when people are only using me and I don’t allow their negative energy to affect me.
What does the word bitch mean to you?
Bitch: sleeping around with men you don’t know, wearing short skirts but in truth that’s not who or what a bitch is.
What are your favourite smells?
REEK Perfume! Other smells would be : a new book , coffee , chocolate , the smell of food my grandmother makes, the smell of my mother’s baking, the journey of cooking for others, I love food memories, my father. This songcomes to mind…
You can follow Fidele and GIRL Magazine here.